Ask YC: Best ways to become socially adept?

Re:Ask YC: Best ways to become socially adept? by yters on Monday April 21, 2008 @06:21PM (#169983)

I think that's good advice, but I also do think I'm missing something. For some reason I am just not at ease around others, and I don't get it. I think I lack a sense of self, there's always a need for confirmation from others, not that you would think so if you knew me.

Essentially, there is something missing and I feel disconnected from others. I cannot engage them on an intuitive level, I engage them on an analytical level which tries to look natural, because my intuition is not normal, i.e. doesn't sync with most people. I think this is true for many introverts, and is why they tend to be exhausted by social interaction.

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Re:Ask YC: Best ways to become socially adept? by OpenWebU on Tuesday April 22, 2008 @02:45AM (#170356)

My brother just came back from the Hoffman Institute - an intensive 9 day seminar where they address how to have genuine and connected communications - picking up on patterns, and in a group therapy setting, reworking those patterns so you are reconnected... http://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/

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Re:Ask YC: Best ways to become socially adept? by petercooper on Tuesday April 22, 2008 @11:47PM (#171260)

Are you uneasy even around your closest contacts, though? (friends, family, etc.) If so, then yes, there's probably something worth working at.

In my case, I get on ferociously well with a handful of people, but almost no-one else (at least, not for longer than an hour or two). That's good enough for me, but if ALL social interaction is a problem for you, then best of luck with your journey! :)

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