I was really surprised to see this is not the standard in the software world (where you can do your job just as well in overshifts to compensate for lost hours)
And you felt it necessary to pretend that people are explicitly trying to give parent's special treatment over non-parents, which isn't something I've seen anyone in this thread argue for.
And now I've gone and derailed the discussion further and given you the argument you were looking for.
That's fair, my comment does sort of sway. I'd delete it if HN let, my apologies.
To be fair, I did ask what it meant exactly, which was what I led with - but you're right, I did ask a second question.
I'm Still unsure what it means, exactly.
> And you felt it necessary to pretend that people are explicitly trying to give parent's special treatment over non-parents, which isn't something I've seen anyone in this thread argue for.
No, I didn't. I'm not going to argue the root, because you're right, it detracts from the conversation at large. Yet, I was not pretending by any stretch. (ie, my intent was not fake, again, this is not an argument, no one comment lol)
As a working parent, totally agree. Employers should be more accommodating for working parents just like they do for maternity/paternity programs, but they haven't yet.
Big corporations with HR and dedicated benefit personnels are more tolerable than most startups, unfortunately.