If you can't see it, ask your manager. Or your manager's manager. Or someone who is actually using nlp or stuff like that. Or just grab a (any) book on psychology.

But of course, if somebody doesn't want to think on it because I offended his beloved toy for communicating, he will tend to argue endlessly instead. That's one of the most basic human behaviors: everyone is justifying what he's spending time on.

OK now you're just being rude

Yeah ok you're right. I apologize. It must have been a bad day.