> Given the cultural norms around dating require men to initiate the conversation 95%+ of the time
If that is your impression it may say more about you than the world around you. But of course I don't know where you live.
> there's a real risk of demonizing men's efforts to initiate conversation.
I doubt the species will die out. Perhaps some of those reticent women you know will have to make more of an effort!
This is what they call "Game" and it too is learnable. Being relaxed is a big part of it.
Sadly I believe this term has a misogynist undertone. I learned about talking to women like that and while it had enormous benefits, they also didn't really teach what was appropriate and had to learn them as well as un-learn a few bad habits.
“Game” is not misogynistic. If you think that then I don’t think you quite understand it. It is about a reduction in ego via self acceptance. Self confidence and self worth through emotional intelligence. Basically if you understand the teachings on Daniel Goleman, you will end up with “Game”. I think you think I mean a “player” which I totally agree with you on.
Given the cultural norms around dating require men to initiate the conversation 95%+ of the time, there's a real risk of demonizing men's efforts to initiate conversation. If nobody approaches, then a lot of great connections never get formed.