Re:It all made sense when we found out we were autistic
by breckinloggins on Monday March 26, 2018 @01:27PM
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It could be that this tracks with whether you believe you have an "internal locus of control".
There's a spectrum of orientation between "just give me names for parts of who I am so I can understand myself and find a community of similar people" and "tell me everything most people think is wrong with me so I can fix it yesterday". I suspect we all fall at different points along that spectrum depending on the supposed or actual deviation from the norm in question.
Personal example: I don't care that I'm geekier than the norm; it's not something I desire to change though it feels good to know there are others like me. This doesn't change just because I'd have a wider selection of friends if only I learned to have more "normal" interests.
On the other hand, if I have a nervous tick or other part of my personality that the majority of people I see everyday find annoying, I want to know about it and fix it. I don't want to label it and then feel proud of being one of those people. I don't want to start an advocacy group or a hashtag. I want to eliminate that behavior immediately.
Same person, entirely different points along that spectrum.
There's a spectrum of orientation between "just give me names for parts of who I am so I can understand myself and find a community of similar people" and "tell me everything most people think is wrong with me so I can fix it yesterday". I suspect we all fall at different points along that spectrum depending on the supposed or actual deviation from the norm in question.
Personal example: I don't care that I'm geekier than the norm; it's not something I desire to change though it feels good to know there are others like me. This doesn't change just because I'd have a wider selection of friends if only I learned to have more "normal" interests.
On the other hand, if I have a nervous tick or other part of my personality that the majority of people I see everyday find annoying, I want to know about it and fix it. I don't want to label it and then feel proud of being one of those people. I don't want to start an advocacy group or a hashtag. I want to eliminate that behavior immediately.
Same person, entirely different points along that spectrum.