The worst are the ones that constantly say, "We're like a family here." Family of psychopaths maybe.

YMMV, I find companies in the Midwest would rather you check your empathy at the door.

You detailed my thoughts much better than I did.

Maybe it's my Midwestern upbringing, but I'd rather just get my job done than be an emotional sop for my coworkers, or worse have other people be an emotional sop for me.

> but I'd rather just get my job done than be an emotional sop for my coworkers, or worse have other people be an emotional sop for me

I don't think you have to be in THAT kind of relationship with coworkers.

>We're just one big family and, when you've been to a few domestic disputes, Littlebottom, I can assure you that you'll see the resemblance.

- Terry Pratchett, Feet of Clay

Ironically not many people can bear to work with their relatives!

They are rare, but I've found myself at one so I can say with certainty that they do exist.

And it's in the company's best interest: Turnover is extremely low, which means that knowledge and talent are retained. It makes business sense.

Go work for a big 4 as a consultant in your specialty? Sure you’ll work 80 hours a week and travel basically all the time, but you get a lot of latitude and professionalism in exchange for that.

My (anecdotal) observation is that this big4 "professionalism" is mostly a self-imporant delusion (probably imprinted into people by years of company culture and trainings), and that a lot of senior people in there are insufferable wankers. That's from my experience with senior managers from Deloitte and PwC.

Haha, completely true, but you get a lot of latitude and you are actually valued as an employee — unlike most salaried jobs, there is a direct correlation between your paycheck and the company’s revenue. There is also a high incentive for the company to pay to keep your skills up-to-date.

The culture in consulting has its problems, but things are getting better and we’re seeing a lot more women entering senior roles which is starting to fix some of the bad behavior that has traditionally gone on.

As for acting self-important? It takes a fucking ego to have a 27 year old kid tell a 50 year old SVP how to do his job. But as a result, people in consulting generally respect each others large egos, which gets you some degree of professionalism.