Ask HN: What brings you joy, without a relationship?

Posted by valueprop on Monday March 12, 2018 @11:19AM
from the ask-hn dept.

Healthy male, 38, financially secure. Being depressed about not having a relationship/wife/family, doing counseling for 3 months already. Rather than focusing on what's missing, I'm working on focusing what I could do on my own.

What activities which don't depend on having a SO bring you joy?

Thanks for sharing.

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Re:Ask HN: What brings you joy, without a relationship? by montrose on Monday March 12, 2018 @11:28AM (#16568761)

Learning new things. Making things. Making the world better in some way. Doing something I wasn't able to before. Exercise. Seeing things I've always wanted to see.

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Re:Ask HN: What brings you joy, without a relationship? by meric on Tuesday March 13, 2018 @12:33AM (#16573883)

Continue your journey and walk the path of becoming the best person you can be. The further you're on it, the more people want to join you for a ride. It's not uncommon for men to start a family at 45, you have time; Face your emotions and wants head on & keep going!

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Re:Ask HN: What brings you joy, without a relationship? by Neowizard on Monday March 12, 2018 @12:30PM (#16569258)

Making/building stuff. Be it home improvement or just some gizmo, it makes me feel free

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Re:Ask HN: What brings you joy, without a relationship? by taylodl on Monday March 12, 2018 @12:20PM (#16569167)

In my case it's playing guitar and practicing a martial art. I like these activities because I get some time away from my SO and it has nothing to do with programming or tech so I get a break from work as well.

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Re:Ask HN: What brings you joy, without a relationship? by sharemywin on Monday March 12, 2018 @11:59AM (#16568989)

Do you have a friend(s) you can go do things with?

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Re:Ask HN: What brings you joy, without a relationship? by valueprop on Monday March 12, 2018 @03:32PM (#16570730)

Not really. I have 3 friends, all married with kids.

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Re:Ask HN: What brings you joy, without a relationship? by sharemywin on Monday March 12, 2018 @12:00PM (#16569000)

maybe join a cooking class or something like that.

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