Why do you want to waste your time with the kind of woman who would only speak to you if you have a luxury downtown apartment and sports car if you don't want those things for yourself? Sounds like a recipe for resentment and unhappiness. Why not aim to have sex with women whose values more align with your own?

- A woman who earns more than her husband

The type of women I attracted tend to be type A and career oriented. I think they are the ones who want to be with someone with aligned values. Maybe they see material wealth as a signal for career success?

I do, but it's a lot easier to pick from a non-empty set. Just because they're initially attracted by superficial things (and probably subconsciously) doesn't make them bad people, any more than I'm a bad person for noticing a woman's chest size before learning about her values.

It feels like you're making the assumption that women who would be attracted/impressed by/enjoy luxury things are somehow shallow or maybe gold diggers. The truth is that status (or the potential for it) factors very highly into how humans pick mates. Luxury things are an easy proxy for status, your personal ambitions, and success. And yes, status can be displayed via other means if a person has social standing or does something our society considers cool (ex: rockstar).

I guess what I'm saying is that, whatever personal situation, I doubt you would be interested in a man who just lazed around the couch all day watching Netflix, playing video games, and having little ambition beyond that.