Re:Why is it hard to make friends over 30? (2012)
by tyrex2017 on Wednesday February 21, 2018 @03:27AM
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fully agree. you need regular encounters. at least 7 i read somewhere, and this is only possible in the context of a regular hobby/class.
so it may be less about being 30+ and more about not having regular activities which bring you in contact with the same people over and over again.
Re:Why is it hard to make friends over 30? (2012)
by KozmoNau7 on Wednesday February 21, 2018 @05:48AM
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I also met most of my friends in my late 20s and early 30s, after moving across the country multiple times when I was younger, severing friendships in the process.
What really helped me was getting into a bunch of hobbies and putting myself out there, starting kickboxing and crossfit, volunteering at a local historic motor race, going to concerts and festivals, music quizzes. Just a bunch of stuff that interestes me, and presumably interest people with a similar mindset as mine.
Like you said, grad school has been useful because you're all going through the same situation and spending repeated time with each other.
For me, it was picking a handful of Meetup.com groups that interested me and going to meetups over and over and over again, until I became one of the regulars that knew pretty much everyone and they knew me. And then we started inviting each other to private events, and friendships grew from there.