I didn't do comparisons. But RethinkDB has straightforward issues like a slow QL implementation using a lot of CPU and a lot of disk space usage. Change feeds have a few scaling issues if you want a lot of them. I don't know that it has mysterious kinds of excessive resource usage. I'm a dev of RethinkDB, not an end user, so I might be seeing the worst side of it. I haven't used Cockroach or TiDB.