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Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by neom on Sunday February 11, 2018 @10:31AM (#16353051)
Speaking from experience. Talking to the board when you're not a founder or on the board can be a very very delicate things and is likely to get you fired if you approach it incorrectly. I'd recommend taking one board member out for a coffee and really posing it as asking for advice, not asking the board to get involved. I would also advise against doing this behind the CEOs back. That being said, getting board advice can really help you see how to support the founders more meaningfully.
Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by sillysaurus3 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @11:12AM (#16353243)
This comment bothers me, but I can't quite put my finger on why. It's not you – your intentions are quite good. It's valuable information.

I think it's bothersome because it's true. And that reveals just how subservient employees actually are. If you're an employee, you're servile. It permeates everything you do, and the way you're forced to interact and think with everyone around you. But especially those above and below you.

In fact, "above" and "below" you are artificial terms. We're all people. Yet some people are more special than others.

It's very hard to want to participate in such a system. But this is a personal flaw of mine.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by 20180201 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @11:35AM (#16353335)
that's a very pessimistic view, and one that doesn't take into account the reality of being an executive or board member.

i'm a co-founder/executive of a small technology company. i have employees that used to be in my position when they were younger, but now they want to just do their jobs and go home.

in other words, they don't have intense, heated discussions about strategy, make firing and hiring decisions, make large spending decisions, discuss the financial bookkeeping side of the business, try to raise money from or sell to really unpleasant people, soothe angry customers and employees, because they don't want to. they don't want their work day interrupted by a bunch of anxiety-ridden executive half-conversations and rants with no real conclusions or answers.

almost none of their personal money is on the line, and very little of their potential income is on the line. they can go and find another 100k job tomorrow, they could possibly even make MORE money at their next job just by the dumb luck of losing their current one. did you ever think about that?

but... now here's the part you won't like: the reason you hold your opinion is because you want something more than what you have now. and that fundamental mis-alignment is going to cause you some level of frustration, because you think of yourself as a shot caller, when you aren't (or, more specifically, don't have to be). and when you're told what to do you get resentful, because you think you know better. well, maybe you do, maybe you don't. but you don't write the checks, and that's what a business is.

if you want to be involved at the upper levels, nothing is stopping you. you just need to either find that job, or create one for yourself.

stepping into conversations in which you have no context and no skin in the game is a real fast way to get yourself shunned because you have shared NONE of the downside but you walk in the door like you have all the answers. quite frankly, that's bullshit. and quite frankly, even if it isn't, you don't have any influence in that situation so it's irrelevant.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by csa on Sunday February 11, 2018 @12:47PM (#16353706)
> stepping into conversations in which you have no context and no skin in the game is a real fast way to get yourself shunned because you have shared NONE of the downside but you walk in the door like you have all the answers. quite frankly, that's bullshit. and quite frankly, even if it isn't, you don't have any influence in that situation so it's irrelevant.

If you have any good investors, and at this point I somehow doubt it, this comment just made them shit in their pants and/or write off their investment in you.

I strongly encourage you to learn to listen to the folks around you carefully, especially the experienced ones. Sometimes the folks with no skin in the game are the only people who will give you an accurate picture of what’s going on.

If you are “shunning” any of your employees for any reason, then you’ve got major problems.

If you don’t think experienced (older) people don’t have at least some of the answers and treat them accordingly, then you’ve got major problems. This is true even if they don’t come in with a perfect attitude — note that attitude can usually be fixed with gentle prodding from a skilled leader.

If you think that one has to have (significant?) exposure to downsides to have any of the answers, then you’ve got major problems.

If you haven’t given your employees enough information and enough autonomy to help move your company in the right direction, then you’ve got major problems.

Best of luck... I’m afraid to say that I think you will need a healthy dose of it.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by Spooky23 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @01:42PM (#16354042)
So you think it’s a good idea for employees to go to the board with a position out of sync with management and bypass the management chain?

I’ve never seen any place in business, non-profit or government where that was a scenario that would benefit the employee unless the employee was very politically savvy, was in a very senior position and had special circumstances (past relationships, etc)

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by csa on Sunday February 11, 2018 @07:12PM (#16355580)
> So you think it’s a good idea for employees to go to the board with a position out of sync with management and bypass the management chain?

The article says very specifically:

"The team underneath the founders should feel like they have the right, and the responsibility, to talk to the Board and investor group when founder dysfunction gets really bad. In general the idea of the team going around the leaders to the Board is a big “no no” in startup land, but there are a few places where that needs to happen, like outing illegal or dishonest actions, or harassment. Likewise, if the co-founder relationship is so bad that the company is being seriously harmed, the team should feel a responsibility to come to the Board with that information."

I stand by this.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by notyourday on Monday February 12, 2018 @07:05AM (#16358114)
The article is written by a VC trying to protect his turf. Lying is rampant in startup world, up and down the chain of management. It is also routine in the world built around startups. VCs lie to execs. Execs lie to leadership. Leadership lies to management. Management lies to rank and file. In our politically correct culture it is just not called "lying" - it may be called "accelerating" or "explaining" or "moving the needle". This, in turn, creates a situation where everyone with an ounce of brain and common sense needs to figure out not just a real picture but a real picture as seen by every layer of organization or players.

I especially take issue with this:

"The team underneath the founders should feel like they have the right, and the responsibility, to talk to the Board and investor group when founder dysfunction gets really bad. In general the idea of the team going around the leaders to the Board is a big “no no” in startup land, but there are a few places where that needs to happen, like outing illegal or dishonest actions, or harassment. "

Had this been the case we would not have had scandals at Zenefits and Uber. The big no-no in a startup land is no stop looking like a cash cows for VCs.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by Spooky23 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @07:47PM (#16355722)
I think that’s different, and the response to that sort of company, especially for a senior employee is to resign.

If the founders are behaving unethically or illegally, the board has already failed to fulfill its duty. “Don’t kill the messenger” is rarely reality.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by wolco on Sunday February 11, 2018 @05:23PM (#16355166)
If you are going to the board as an employee the company better be falling apart.
Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by 20180201 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @06:15PM (#16355384)
> So you think it’s a good idea for employees to go to the board with a position out of sync with management and bypass the management chain?

he just didn't like the language i used (it's blunt, and describes a social dynamic he's probably upset about). he forgot all about what's actually being discussed here, which is an IC-level employee vocalizing to the co-founders/executives and board about the direction/strategy/highlevel leadership of the company.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by warent on Sunday February 11, 2018 @07:14PM (#16355589)
It's ironic that you're championing blunt language and disregard for social dynamic under a throwaway account.

Your comment about tone, even if its regarding your own--or other's perception of it--brings no value to this discussion. Arguably it brings negative value.

Did you create this account to vent a fantasy personality that you're restraining in real life?

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by 20180201 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @07:56PM (#16355757)
i don't have a real account, haven't had one for years, because eventually i say something the mods don't like.

cheers.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by ABCLAW on Sunday February 11, 2018 @01:06PM (#16353830)
This was the impression I got from reading the post as well.

Organizations are distributed human reasoning systems. If your culture, personalities or incentives prevent people from sharing key insights, you are hampering your ability to execute.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by 20180201 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @06:08PM (#16355361)
i think it's telling that you assume i have 'investors' to please, and that they will somehow punish me for my unjust mean words and actions that hurt someone's imaginary feelings. like 'investors' are somehow the arbiter of moral virtue in the world. maybe they are in your world, and that's why you are so shocked at my simple telling of the truth of how people operate in a company hierarchy.

i think what that just means you worship venture capitalists and fluffy language they espouse (in a cynically false way, i might add) over real world descriptors.

i started my business specifically to dramatically mitigate the possibility that small concentrations of people will have any financial leverage over me.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by csa on Sunday February 11, 2018 @07:10PM (#16355578)
s/investors/board... it doesn't really matter. It still doesn't make your approach any more valid.

Note that the original post is from a VC, and the context of this thread is a discussion of someone talking to a board member without the knowledge of the founders. Also note that the article itself mentioned specific contexts in which this should be done:

"The team underneath the founders should feel like they have the right, and the responsibility, to talk to the Board and investor group when founder dysfunction gets really bad. In general the idea of the team going around the leaders to the Board is a big “no no” in startup land, but there are a few places where that needs to happen, like outing illegal or dishonest actions, or harassment. Likewise, if the co-founder relationship is so bad that the company is being seriously harmed, the team should feel a responsibility to come to the Board with that information."

This all seems valid to me. It also seems like situations in which it is reasonable to step "into conversations in which you have no context and no skin in the game".

FWIW, I don't drink the VC kool-aid, and I discourage others from doing so unless they have a very specific business context that is appropriate for VCs (most folks don't). That said, I am a fan of people in a wide range of fields to develop their fundamental skills in leadership and management, and I get the sense based on your comments that your fundamentals are lacking.

If you think otherwise, please step out from behind your throwaway and let us know about you and your company. I am sure that your posts here will reap huge benefits in recruiting and retention.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by josquindesprez on Sunday February 11, 2018 @12:46PM (#16353704)
In my experience, the 'heads down; just let me code and go home' attitude is beaten into a lot of engineers by a series of bad experiences with management. Experiences in which their input is repeatedly ignored in favor of what seems like management bullshit.

> if you want to be involved at the upper levels, nothing is stopping you. you just need to either find that job, or create one for yourself.

I'd imagine many engineers are coming at it from a slightly different perspective. They're used to being able to self-teach. They're used to REPLs, where getting instant feedback is easy. They're used to having the luxury of rapidly iterating on failure before they get it right. They're used to a world of technical decisions where being smart and right is often enough to win.

Trying the same process with management bites them in the ass, and disillusions them.

It sounds like you envy their freedom to put their head down as much as they envy your freedom to _matter_.

Ultimately, you're not totally wrong, but complaining about the symptoms without treating the cause isn't productive.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by sidlls on Sunday February 11, 2018 @03:39PM (#16354660)
In my experience the "heads down; just let me code and go home" mentality is more frequently one part of a general ambivalence or even hostility about things that aren't engineering (or, worse, specifically CS).
Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by aje403 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @03:01PM (#16354440)
I understand that may feel that way, but I think that perspective is complete shit for someone to have. Nothing is beaten into anyone. That is a losing attitude in life. Every profession on the planet can involve idiot managers expecting subservience - software is only a slight exception because it involves people with weaker social skills (sorry, yeah) and higher creativity. If you don't like your job, nothing is keeping you there. If you're 35, you have a decent salary, and you have a family or some other thing locking you in, your own life decisions brought you to that point. Any engineer can come up with an idea, make friends, start a company, leave the software world and start a coffee shop, work hard to find a different position with upward mobility. That's easier said than done, but life is not easy and it's full of choices.
Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by warent on Sunday February 11, 2018 @01:19PM (#16353902)
> stepping into conversations in which you have no context and no skin in the game is a real fast way to get yourself shunned because you have shared NONE of the downside but you walk in the door like you have all the answers. quite frankly, that's bullshit. and quite frankly, even if it isn't, you don't have any influence in that situation so it's irrelevant.

I couldn't disagree more. Not only is this is an excellent way to create a top-heavy echo chamber in your company--which is counterproductive to problem-solving--but also lower tier employees will end up feeling like tools rather than contributors. Frankly put, this mindset comes across as very arrogant.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by angersock on Sunday February 11, 2018 @12:09PM (#16353490)
But...that's still the case with the founders too, no?

Having a business puts you in a good position to get funding or customers for a new venture. The same labor market for your employees benefits you if you yourself have any technical skills worth mentioning.

And your employees might care if they actually had a profit share in how the company did, or saw some direct upside when they did their job better or worse--which is usually not the case. Why break their back for an entitled owner resents them for knowing the value of their labor?

You sound like somebody with the typical founder hubris.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by 20180201 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @12:18PM (#16353540)
i've counted 3 separate conclusions you've projected onto me based on zero confirmed information about my situation. even if i refuted your points, you wouldn't believe me, so i guess you're right just because you say you are.

which is sort of what i was alluding to in my last comment.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by angersock on Sunday February 11, 2018 @12:26PM (#16353586)
Lazy, try again.

Your last paragraph of "no context, no skin in game" is the same projection you accuse me of. How many workers have to deal with the fallout of arrogant founder decisions? They've got skin in the game too, just no agency. They probably have even more context than you, if they've been paying attention to numbers or if they have their own experience as founders.

If you think I paint an unfair or incorrect picture, by all means try to make a case.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by 20180201 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @06:22PM (#16355410)
> How many workers have to deal with the fallout of arrogant founder decisions?

well, so far, zero.

i think this thread is just you venting at me for having an opinion, because there's this image in your head of a mustache twirling asshole.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by angersock on Sunday February 11, 2018 @10:09PM (#16356247)
> well, so far, zero.

It should've been obvious that I was talking about workers in the general sense, not at your company.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by neom on Sunday February 11, 2018 @03:06PM (#16354475)
FWIW: Keep in mind that 3 years into a 4 year vest with hundreds of thousands of shares that have gone from a couple of cents to tens of dollars changes your "skin in the game" perspective pretty heavily, especially if you're concerned the founder turmoil is going to devalue the share price.
Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by hluska on Sunday February 11, 2018 @03:28PM (#16354607)
I'm going to be charitable and trust that this comment is a poorly written joke. Certainly, no true co-founder/executive would hold onto such immature and utterly antiquated attitudes. True leaders walk behind.

If, on the other hand, you were being serious, I genuinely hope that you grow up and learn to lead before you flush anymore investor money down the toilet.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by Alex3917 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @03:41PM (#16354678)
> In fact, "above" and "below" you are artificial terms. We're all people. Yet some people are more special than others.

So would you be ok, for example, with your employer showing up at your house and telling you how you should be running your side project?

It's their business, sometimes they are going to make mistakes, and by all means you should point out where you see room for improvement. But at the end of the day it's their reputation at stake so they need to be the ones making the decisions. And unless it's clear that they are defrauding investors or something then it's fine if those decisions don't work out, there is no ethical or legal issue there.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by wolco on Sunday February 11, 2018 @05:28PM (#16355189)
If they had a 10% stake then yes.
Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by Alex3917 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @05:38PM (#16355231)
If you have a 10% stake though then it's completely fine for you to talk to the board whenever you want in your capacity as an equity holder. But that's different than talking to the board in your capacity as an employee.
Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by wolco on Sunday February 11, 2018 @05:47PM (#16355285)
If the roles are separate yes. If the roles are mixed where you are being paid in stock then it should he fair.
Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by Alex3917 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @07:27PM (#16355645)
> If the roles are mixed where you are being paid in stock then it should he fair.

Yeah and I think that's fine. Whether you are investing sweat equity or capital shouldn't matter. But if you're an employee getting paid market rate with a nominal slice of equity then you really shouldn't be talking with the board unless there is some sort of misconduct, not merely because you disagree with the product direction or whatever.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by pacala on Sunday February 11, 2018 @11:26AM (#16353299)
It's a search space. Think of people "above" as being more likely to know which direction to search next, and people "below" as being less likely to have a clue. Ignore people "above" at your own peril, fail to mentor people "below" at their peril.
Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by sillysaurus3 on Sunday February 11, 2018 @11:36AM (#16353339)
If only. I love a good search space. (Really, there are few things more delightful.)

The people above you are usually as clueless as you are. They just conceal it with confidence. Which they acquire because you can't fire the people above you, and it's less likely for their decisions to destroy the company/team than for your decisions to get you pruned.

Being forced to bow your head and meekly speak in just the right way is enough to make me want to vomit. And I don't know where this feeling is coming from. It's very strong, and it came on in the last 6 months or so. It doesn't seem healthy.

It probably sounds like I look down on people who act that way. Quite the opposite. It's more like realizing we're all forced to act that way, all the time, and suddenly I'm not so sure this system is one we should want to submit to.

Even if people try to convince you that the power dynamic isn't there, it is. Every single decision you make is through the lens of "will this get me fired?" Especially when it matters, as this article illustrates. Which is by definition the most important time to take action.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by mseebach on Sunday February 11, 2018 @04:27PM (#16354916)
Healthy teams have a dynamic where you can say what's on your mind and where you don't get fired for (single) mistakes.

But this is not that. This is going to the board to get your co-founder fired. Damn right you better choose your words carefully.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by angersock on Sunday February 11, 2018 @12:11PM (#16353501)
I'd go so far to say that, at least for senior staff, you have a job precisely because the founders lack experise or wisdom in many topics. Their decisions are not guaranteed to be correct at all.
Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by zapita on Sunday February 11, 2018 @06:39PM (#16355471)
> Being forced to bow your head and meekly speak in just the right way is enough to make me want to vomit. And I don't know where this feeling is coming from. It's very strong, and it came on in the last 6 months or so. It doesn't seem healthy.

You work in a toxic environment. Start looking for a new job asap.

Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by bsbechtel on Sunday February 11, 2018 @09:06PM (#16356032)
In the long view of your career, many people you meet will be bosses at one point, colleagues at another, and subordinates at another, possibly within the same group of people. Yes, power structures exist, but meaningful human relationships can exist above them, and can also overturn them.
Re:The Co-Founder Relationship by icedchai on Sunday February 11, 2018 @07:35PM (#16355674)
What happens when it's the opposite direction? I've seen board members contact employees and try to influence their opinion in an attempt to persuade the CEO about one thing or another. When a board member or major investor asks you out to lunch, it's very difficult to say no. It's bad and puts everyone in an awkward situation, since you as an employee may not have the full story.