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Re:People who are less willing to apologize also tend to be ... by racer-v on Wednesday February 07, 2018 @12:56AM (#16322505)
Who benefits when you try to force an unwanted apology on someone who doesn't want to be contacted by you? Consider whether you're just trying to assuage your own guilty conscience at the further expense of the victim.
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Re:People who are less willing to apologize also tend to be ... by tinokid on Wednesday February 07, 2018 @11:56AM (#16325867)
I didn't mean to suggest the person would not want contact.

An apology doesn't itself assuage a guilty conscience, it is just an acknowledgement of the debt created by the wrong. A fake apology may be worse than saying nothing, but the prevalence of fake apologies is no excuse not to do the right thing.

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Re:People who are less willing to apologize also tend to be ... by racer-v on Wednesday February 07, 2018 @12:31PM (#16326239)
It's a data point that many crime victims ask not to be contacted by the perpetrator. Again I'm asking you whose benefit this apology is for. If it's for your own benefit, maybe it's not warranted.
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