Manipulative, judgemental, fail to be accountable / responsible, don't apologise, are inconsistent, require you to prove yourself, require you to defend yourself, are not caring / supportive / interested in what's important to you.
Not mentioned: there's often trauma, abuse, fear, or pain underlying the behaviour. Not that this makes it any easier to deal with.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-flux/201608/8-things...
Manipulative, judgemental, fail to be accountable / responsible, don't apologise, are inconsistent, require you to prove yourself, require you to defend yourself, are not caring / supportive / interested in what's important to you.
Not mentioned: there's often trauma, abuse, fear, or pain underlying the behaviour. Not that this makes it any easier to deal with.