You could try giving normal, mainstream porn a shot.

I don't think adopting either far end of the spectrum view of womens' sexuality is healthy. On one hand you have people who think less of women (putting it lightly) who are sexually active, and on the other people who treat them like they're children and believe there's no way they could be enjoying themselves as performers and that someone must be forcing them into it.

Women aren't any different from men wrt sex - some like to have a lot, some a little, some with different people, some outdoors, some with members of the same sex, and some with members of both sexes. Like green eggs and ham, kinda.

The history of humanity clearly shows that men want more sex than women.

It clearly shows nothing of the kind. Point me to the large swaths of recorded history where the men and women are treated equally in their society and the women express less desire for sex.

There's a difference between wanting and signalling that want in an overt way. Throughout history women have been conditioned to satisfy their sexual desires in much less overt ways than men, but that doesn't mean the desires themselves are any less in frequency or magnitude.

there is no evidence that human sexuality is the result of conditioning, but let’s pretend it is. who conditioned nearly all the other mammals to have the same pattern we do? and why did we bother to condition ourselves to behave in a way that nature clearly provides?

First, I have talked to an actual expert in the field of human sexuality, and yes we do condition on anything that occurs simultaneously with any orgasm. You can try this for yourself by picking something you don’t mind accidentally fetishising.

Secondly, what pattern? Dogs (and TIL dolphins) hump random things; hyenas are (in human terms) femdom sadomasochists; the male antechinus gets horny once in their life, then has as much sex as possible before dying of exhaustion; female ferrets literally die if they don’t have sex; bonobos have sex pretty much as a way of saying “hello”, “sorry”, or as a social favour; and pandas famously don’t mate enough for their own survival.

It shows that men have, more often than women but not uniquely, had the physical and political power to disregard consent. Not the same thing as wanting more.