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Re:The art of the dinner party by wenc on Sunday November 12, 2017 @07:52PM (#15683465)
Agreed. I used to think small talk was superficial, but it does serve a social purpose in mixed-company. It greases the wheel and initiates people into deeper conversation.

Without it, the atmosphere gets really intense really quickly, which can be weird unless you're among old friends or people who have high emotional intelligence to start with (can't always count on that).

Re:The art of the dinner party by m3kw9 on Sunday November 12, 2017 @11:11PM (#15684236)
A lot of people hate small talk because of their success rate of small talk. “How are you doing?”, “yeah it’s good, how have you been?” “Not too bad”. “...”
Re:The art of the dinner party by wenc on Sunday November 12, 2017 @11:21PM (#15684274)
There are many good opening lines, but I've found that simply asking "How's your week been?" works much better than a "How are you" because it nudges people to to tell a story.

Then I ask questions about that story.