Who’s Sitting Next to You on the Subway? An R Train in September

Re:Who’s Sitting Next to You on the Subway? An R Train in Se... by sdoering on Sunday November 05, 2017 @01:35AM (#15628402)

I am generally on your side of the argument. Non the less. There is this voice inside my head that asks, if by not countering such antisocial behaviour we send the signal that this behaviour actually is ok.

When people learn that they get what they want by acting as assholes, why should they change?

In Germany we had a saying that it takes a whole village to raise a child. But these days if you tell a anti-social kid on the train to be more civil the parent tends to scold you.

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Re:Who’s Sitting Next to You on the Subway? An R Train in Se... by monktastic1 on Sunday November 05, 2017 @08:53AM (#15629358)

If the group on the train could band together, show the kid some love, and actually help him, that would be amazing. Unfortunately, "countering" behavior in these situations often involves a kind of adversarial mentality that just pushes the real problem deeper. The same action taken out of love versus enmity can lead to vastly different outcomes.

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