Re:How Emotional Labor is Dragging Down Gender Equality
by mhb on Thursday September 28, 2017 @11:19AM
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Yes. It's the wrong term. She objects to having to manage some of the household tasks. She doesn't want to manage the housecleaning or manage child care. Fine. Managing is work. No need for the different nomenclature.
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Re:How Emotional Labor is Dragging Down Gender Equality
by analog31 on Thursday September 28, 2017 @01:00PM
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Sometimes the hardest thing for a manager is to give up managing something. Being in control is not a pure cost. Managing is work, but it's also prestige, power, and security. It's also easy to delude yourself into believing that you have "higher" standards, when all you have is different wants. And if you're a manager, chances are you're a better debater and negotiator, so your beliefs are sheltered even if you're wrong.
When I was a manager, kicking the micromanagement habit required months of conscious effort. It wasn't easier at first. A problem with most bad habits is that overcoming them involves things getting worse before they get better.
It took a while for people to believe that they could make their own decisions. Most of them had already been doing so, but keeping their managers out of the loop. Giving up control meant that I was actually allowed to know what was going on.
If someone complains to me that people aren't taking initiative, I ask them if the people are really allowed to take initiative.