I was homeschooled for much of my childhood and first went to a public school my Junior year of high school. I didnt think of myself as exceptionally smart - average at best. I was in a English class one day half way through the year when the teacher was putting us into group. A girl he paired me up with said, "Yay he's smart!" and that was the first time I ever thought I was a "smart" kid. That was a town in Vermont where the public education system was not very good.
Later when I went to college I realized I was just about average at most things, a bit above average at some, and significantly below average at many things (due to poor homeschooling).
As an adult I realize that I'm more intelligent than the average joe but when I'm in a room of professors or even people who have a passion for studying and learning I can tell I'm simply not at the same level as them.
The desire for adults to see genius children is detrimental I believe. I too grew up with lots of praise although it wasn't family only. It didn't help me much. Especially since I was kept in normal schools at normal pace, so now I'm bored and spoiled. College slapped 90% of that out of me. I still feel like a genius occasionally and although feel like a fraud most of the time.
to add some value to the topic of education, what people call intelligence in children is often an ease for some abstraction and systematic thinking. While most kids are scattered and down to earth. But there will be subjects or times when even your(my) nice brain will fail to appreciate some idea or detail. Especially outside of your natural tastes.
I had always been told I was intelligent and clever. When it came to the exams everyone takes as a 15/16 year old in the UK I distinctly remember thinking to myself something like: "everyone has to be able to pass these exams, so I should be able to pass easily without much effort since I am one of the clever kids".
I didn't cheat, but my line of thought led me to a fairly disappointing set of results (as you'd expect).
Even now I think of myself as "smarter than the average bear", but I have the feeling that people were just telling me that because they were my parent/grand parent/friendly neighbor/aunt etc and now it is SET IN STONE IN MY BRAIN after years of reinforcement as a child.
What really confuses me though, is how can I think I am smarter than average, yet suffer from near constant impostor-syndrome? :-)