Re:Divorce and Occupation
by dnoeu872sn on Tuesday September 05, 2017 @07:52PM
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That's really horrible. It's as bad as "You can't love someone else until you love yourself," and "You're nobody until somebody loves you," and "Happy wife, happy life." All awful sayings.
It's perfectly possible for one spouse to love their spouse but not themselves, or to be right when the other isn't, or one to be happy when the other isn't. It's understandable to want to help your spouse to become right or happy or whatever, but a saying like the above is one of those memes that people repeat without fully thinking through what it actually means. And what it means is terrible.
Re:Divorce and Occupation
by humanrebar on Tuesday September 05, 2017 @09:06PM
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It's Ephesians 5:28. I can promise you it's not a thoughtless meme that people bat around. I've heard it cited in at least six wedding sermons.
In other words, "you" becomes plural. One spouse isn't right unless both are. One spouse isn't happy unless both are.
To the extent that that's not happening, it's an urgency for each spouse to iterate, check in, and innovate until both are right and happy. Even if that's impossible (say, chronic illness) then at least it's a loving team fighting for things that are worth it.