Re:As Coding Boot Camps Close, the Field Faces a Reality Check
by toomuchtodo on Friday August 25, 2017 @10:05AM
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Embrace the time you have left with your mother. Work will always be there, and there is no job more important than your family. Do not give on your boundaries.
I spent the last 2.5 years of my mother's life (she passed away suddenly last month at the age of 59 from a brain hemorrhage) working for a startup, not making more time to spend with her because I thought I'd have at least another 5-10 years with her, and my heart hurts every day thinking about how I didn't spend more time with her. Do not make my mistake. It's just code, you're not saving the world.
Re:As Coding Boot Camps Close, the Field Faces a Reality Check
by mezuzi on Saturday August 26, 2017 @02:54AM
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Sorry to hear that!!! I was a little kid when my grandfather died and for some reason I felt guilty and thought I had abandoned him in his last days. It was such a bad feeling and it still revisits me from time to time.
1. In for the money, no love for the job
2. In for the money, but also love the job, codes on spare time
3. Category 2, but no more free time (family, older parents)
I was in Category 2 but now on category 3. I show up to work early, work intensely, do not waste any time, and try to leave at a normal hour. On weekends, instead of open source projects, I'm spending the time with my mom who is getting much older and requires help and emotional support from the family. That does not mean I have poor ethic or lack of interest, it just means I have a lot of family commitments. I am very productive at work, I love it, but there are clear boundaries unless there is some major deadline or production issue. Speaking of Production issues, I write very very good code to ensure I dont have Prod issues and/or I can quickly do a root-cause-analysis of issues that pop up. My personal needs focus me like a laser on productive time at the office.