The opportunity costs are choices. If you raise $40M you're investors really aren't willing to see you 'exit' for just $80M, they will want you to go for way more than that. If you don't raise the $40M and someone offers you $80M for the company, you can take it and everyone benefits. Or another scenario, some very important strategic company wants to partner with you but this big equity load that is being held by VCs is a disincentive against future possible M&A activities.
Now this only discussed raising money that you don't need which is the case here. The author points out they needed some money, but the investors they talked to were trying to push them to take a lot more than they needed. The thing about bank loans is that their 'liquidation preference' is always very close to 1.0 and they don't tell you how to run your business if you're making your payments :-). That also speaks to control.
Obviously VC costs you equity.
I think control is something you have and lose depending on your ability to deliver. Larry has it. Travis lost it.
I really don't understand the opportunity part. Can you give an example? I'm just drawing a blank.