Let me clarify, as it was late when I wrote this.

By "hit on by a gay man", I mean "cornered in his office, he being a man twice my size, being told he could make life either really easy or really hard".

By "joking inappropriate touching" I mean "groping at my genital area, specifically because it made me uncomfortable, and only doing it more often when I asked it to stop".

By "listening to stories of sexual conquest", I mean "belittled and threatened after questioning whether or not Pick-Up Artist style techniques were moral, ethical, or respectful of their existing marriages".

Sorry I wasn't more clear.

If someone asks you to stop anything and you stop, that's a misunderstanding. If someone asks you to stop and you keep doing it, do it more, and threaten the person about it, that's harassment. It's not really a grey area. The perception that it is a grey area is the system routing around damage and mobilizing spin to make you think so, so they can continue to be rude, domineering, narcissistic assholes.