Did you get a diagnosis from a qualified professional, or is this self-diagnosis?

I used to wonder if I had it, but then I met someone who was diagnosed with it. Fairly significant difference.

Exactly. If one doesn't get the reward then it's too easy to commit errors and not worth the effort to correct them.

However I do think 'spergs' have a better knowledge of the rules than normies. Just as a native speaker doesn't need to know grammar in order to speak correctly, so normies don't need to know the rules of social interaction.

You're absolutely right. It's intuition for neurotypical people, it's just something they get. For aspies socialization is about learning all the hidden rules that come naturally to others. But I do admit that knowing the rules and applying them in real time is a very, very difficult thing to do. It gets exhausting quick, and if this was one of the reasons hermits decide to become hermits, I can empathise massively.

Thus all rules come with a ton of exceptions.

I don't think it _necessarily_ needs to be aspergers for that. I have OCD regarding, e.g., remembering exactly what people said, and it makes social situations exhausting.