Ask HN: Coping with Loneliness

Re:Ask HN: Coping with Loneliness by zapperdapper on Wednesday July 19, 2017 @08:34AM (#14803801)

Go to Bangkok. Find a Starbucks. Order your drink of choice. Within 30 minutes you will be chatted up by a girl. Enjoy! p.s. This happened to me back in 2003. We were together for three years. Got addicted to the lifestyle in Thailand - eating out with friends every night, going out to the islands, beaches, diving, golf, malls etc. I worked remotely. My g/f had a lot of friends too. It was a lot of fun. Beats eating dinner alone in front of the TV - which was my life before going there. Seriously though, if you want to change your life go to Thailand.

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Re:Ask HN: Coping with Loneliness by companyhen on Wednesday July 19, 2017 @11:44AM (#14805108)

I was in Thailand for 3+ months (Jan to April) and worked in coffee shops and co-working spaces M-F usually 10-5 and never was approached by a girl at a coffee shop. Was my first time outside North America. I had good success dating there on Tinder though! I'd actually get daily matches there, where back in the US I get none. The only issue I had was sometimes the girl I met could type English well, but had trouble with speaking so it was hard to have a convo past hello and how are you when we met in person.

Overall, I've never been to a place where it was easier to meet new people and make new friends. I liked Chiang Mai more than Bangkok, but they're definitely two of my favorite cities ever. Koh Lanta is also a paradise.

I'm planning to go back in January again. The lifestyle there is perfect for me at this point in my life (28 year old web developer).

Some pics from my trip: https://drive.google.com/open?id=0B45Al_n9xsrna25kZ0RFdXBOb0...

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Re:Ask HN: Coping with Loneliness by hackerboos on Wednesday July 19, 2017 @02:53PM (#14806838)

Thailand's a notoriously conservative country despite its international reputation.

Far more likely to get chatted up in the West than there.

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Re:Ask HN: Coping with Loneliness by wingerlang on Friday July 21, 2017 @05:20AM (#14819139)

I could offer an alternative viewpoint for people reading. I live work here, a normal 9-5 job as a programmer. Mostly my dinners are at home after work because I am tired from, well working. Malls get boring quickly, and travelling to beaches while working here often? No thanks. Some of my colleagues do it a bit, though.

The Starbucks example is very exaggerated unless you are very very good looking and luck, and even then I am sure it would happen every time.

All in all, just because you go to Thailand your "alone" situation might not change in the long run.

That being said, I do agree with coming to Bangkok and it can definitely be an amazing time. And to directly address the 'girl' focused aspect of the comment, dating here is a very relaxed and fun experience.

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Re:Ask HN: Coping with Loneliness by lastflowers on Wednesday July 19, 2017 @09:39AM (#14804171)

This is the most bizarre comment that might actually make me go visit a place. Sounds like a different world!

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Re:Ask HN: Coping with Loneliness by zapperdapper on Wednesday July 19, 2017 @10:26AM (#14804470)

haha - yeah! I'd be happy to send you some pics and some of my writings about the place, but I don't know how to do that! Sorry! It is a different world!

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Re:Ask HN: Coping with Loneliness by zapperdapper on Wednesday July 19, 2017 @11:21AM (#14804924)

I've put my email in my HN profile so email me if you want more info. Cheers!

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Re:Ask HN: Coping with Loneliness by muzuq on Wednesday July 19, 2017 @09:58AM (#14804290)

Suprisingly alluring comment, haha. Might have to think about it....

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Re:Ask HN: Coping with Loneliness by zapperdapper on Wednesday July 19, 2017 @10:27AM (#14804477)

DO IT! :)

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