Re:Ask HN: What were your naivetés in your twenties?
by WesleyJohnson on Wednesday June 30, 2010 @10:21AM
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I always feel a bit somber when I read advice along the lines of what DBM posted, in that the experience in your life are what define you and you want to live a life you can tell stories about and not one you can sleep through. The feeling of somberness comes from knowing that, thus far, I've really led a life most COULD sleep through. I don't tip the scales of introversion, but I'm not far off.
I'm commenting here because I think you've given good advice on ways to slowly step away from this and these are things I've been putting into practice when I can. I'm more confident in engaging in small talk with people now, but it's typically someone I'm forced to interact with (hair stylist, waiter/waitress, mechanic, etc). I really need to take it a step further and target people outside of that comfort zone. I specifically like your idea of targeting other people standing alone, regardless of whether or not I have the confidence to do so - it's good advice.
Re:Ask HN: What were your naivetés in your twenties?
by jpdbaugh on Wednesday June 30, 2010 @10:14AM
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Thanks that seems like good advice. I am living in Pittsburgh with my girlfriend so I am not entirely alone. However, she is busy with graduate school and I am severely lacking in the friends department.
If you tend to be an introvert, then just take more time asking good questions, let them talk, and then expand upon the mutual interests. Most of my friends wouldn't know I tested on the introverted side on Myers Briggs. (I've moved towards the middle since high school, mostly because I like taking this approach to life so the answers as to what I'd do have actually changed.)
Good luck. If you throw out your location, you might be able to make some local connections through here.