At the same time, don't be too harsh on yourself - like you aren't condemned to a lifetime of a helpless victim, men aren't exactly condemned to be brainless animals following their dick everywhere. At least sometimes; I take your word that you have seen plenty of solid evidence to the contrary ;)

For some reason that didnt wholely click with me when i read it. Maybe my own biases didn't want to see it. Whatever the reason, hearing you say that definitely clarified things.

Now im stratching my head wondering how it wasnt more clear to me.

I think I have become too accustomed to a tl;dr at the end to tell me how to feel, that Ive gotten worse at reading comprehension.

The article ends with a tldr to help with that:

"In wrapping up, I am deeply sorry to any contribution my actions have had on women in this ecosystem by giving permission to the kind of behavior we are trying to change."

It appears as tho my attention span was shorter than the article. My apologies.