I understand - I never claimed equivalence or even a comparison. I don't believe its wrong to acknowledge other parties also affected, especially when designing an ideally lasting and widely adopted solution.

It was the word terrifying which seemed a little out of place, I don't agree men should be or are in terror over changing social norms. If you act naturally but respect the other person and what they say and do, you really have nothing to fear. Just treat people as equals and check they are comfortable from time to time.

In most of these cases we hear about it's very, very clear that someone was using their position of power to attempt to coerce others. If you don't do that, you have nothing to feel terror about.