As for the moral premise you're presuming I hold, please spare me your intellectual gymnastics.
Explain to me how Afghan society would be changed by allowing a small group of girls into the United States for a few days -- so they can participate in a robotics competition.
This veneer of non-interventionism and pragmatism is no more than a facade you hide behind.
You owe me an explanation as far as why we should be messing around with their society in any respect, not the opposite.
Is that really so? Before the Russia invasion, Afghanistan was a relaxed country that attracted hippies. I have also yet to meet an Afghan in the West who would be against women working in robotics.
You might find this of interest if you weren't aware of it: http://www.nytimes.com/2009/10/18/weekinreview/18bumiller.ht...
Afghans in the West are a ridiculously unrepresentative sample; you might as well talk about the views of Americans in Mecca.
I'm guessing you have some moral premise about it being virtuous to spend other people's lives and money to help "the oppressed", by some construction, but I'm not sure how explicit you're willing to be about that premise, and I'm fairly sure I and many others don't agree with any plausible formulation along those lines.