Yes, I remember that hermaphrodite, when it was a male, It was never afraid, and when it was a girl it never felt brave and strong. Biology is super confusing but at least I don't have to talk to my sons about how it feels to be afraid.
I don't know the story. Just from what you said, an alternative hypothesis is that the hermaphrodite internalized the societal norm of both genders, and thus subconsciously switched from the male norm to the female norm according to their body's state. Not saying that this must be the case, but it seems equally supported by the data that is available to me from your descriptions.
I remember reading about an hermaphrodite, she said that when she was a teenager she received hormones and the way she felt reading a comic book was very different depending where in the cycle she was : more emotional at the beginning, more analytical at the end of the cycle.