I've had this conversation with my wife many times. She's aware of my arguments, and I'm aware of hers. I don't necessarily think it needs any mediation, though. That, to me, would signal that it's much more of a life intrusion than it is. I mean, I'm not going to lose her over it.

This is more of a "does anyone else get this way?" because I'm having a hard time relating with the real world in this issue.

Sorry, I wasn't trying to imply that your marriage needs mediation. I meant to suggest that you seek professional guidance if your feelings about the issue are causing you distress. HN isn't really intended to be a venue for this kind of discussion, nor does it seem to be a good one (in my experience).

"This is more of a "does anyone else get this way?" because I'm having a hard time relating with the real world in this issue."

I don't - moving generally fills me with excitement, even when it was to a new country. But I have friends that react in such a way, so it definitely isn't just you. I'd say the other reply here is correct, however. I think the best course of action is to talk to a professional - therapist, psychiatrist or medical doctor. If you can get rid of the anxiety that leads to a near-panic attack, it'll make the decision making and the stress involved in such a decision easier to navigate and talk through.