Re:The Man Trap
by iliketosleep on Sunday May 14, 2017 @05:35PM
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Perhaps one of the solutions is to acknowledge that you cannot have it all ways. In general, society demands that men have all the positive traits of masculinity, without any of the perceived negatives. A woman may marry a man because he is a successful career-orientated man. Later, she may divorce him because he’s not sensitive enough to her emotional needs.
Exceptions aside, certain traits tend to go together, for better or for worse, and this is the case with both masculinity and femininity. In this way, I wish people were more accepting and less judgemental.
"Don't play video games, but be fun to be around."
I was nodding along until I got to this one. What in the world do video games have to do with being a fun person to be around?
It was probably a poor example but I read it as "don't have fun but be fun".
It's just an innocent figure of speech he used, I don't see the problem here.
Re:The Man Trap
by socrates1998 on Sunday May 14, 2017 @11:54PM
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Yeah, it was poorly worded. I just meant it is difficult to have fun because of the expectation to entertain people you are around.
Re:The Man Trap
by greglindahl on Sunday May 14, 2017 @05:21PM
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I think the point here is about interacting with a computer vs interacting with the people in the room.
Yes, except those two ideas are strikingly compatible :)
Just watch the cycles: http://www.livescience.com/8779-fertile-women-manly-men.html
Successful yet don't work too much. Help with the kids, yet don't be feminine. Be strong, yet sensitive. Have hard employable skills, but also be an artist. Don't play video games, but be fun to be around.
All of these are difficult to balance.
The scary part is the a majority of divorces are ended by women.
I don't know the answer, but as long as we acknowledge the fact that both modern men and modern women have a long list of conflicting demands on them, I think we can show everyone more compassion.