Re:An Accident No One Talked About
by M_Grey on Sunday April 02, 2017 @07:22AM
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I had a similar experience, and I'm a bit slow to process extreme emotions so in crisis I'm very calm. A few days later though, it hit me while I was in the shower and my guard was down; I started shaking and I didn't know why. I literally dropped the washcloth and realized that I was crying, then I realized why, and it all hit me. As you say, it's one of those things that never quite heals, it just... skins over a little. Sharing does seem to help.
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I'm the same way. I recently opened up to a friend of mine about a traumatic experience. They wondered why I seem so calm all the time, I'm the calmest person they know. It helped me alot just to talk to them about it, even though the situation was long gone, it haunted me for years. Yet I never showed any emotion over it on the outside, even though on the inside I was not right.
I'm glad that you came to the same conclusion about talking helping, like you it was difficult before that. In my teens and early twenties a lot of people just assumed that I was weirdly calm. It's not easy for people like us to open up and say, "It hits me, it just takes time to process and it all happens inside of my head."