Much of your post seems to be about bad tech, though. It could mostly be mitigated with a supplier that gave a shit.
Everything else is not only bad IT, but ruins your interactions because the medicinal person is bent over a laptop.
1. Once it's on your digital record--it's vunerable to hackers, or staff sending a patient's information off without their consent--with a tired swipe, or send key.
2. Once a doctor knows you have been on a potentially addictive drug, or had a problem in the past with addiction, or theses days; self medication, good luck trying to get relief from future pain.(pain=physical, and emotional.) About a year ago I went to a hospital with a case of shingles that looked twice as bad as those commercials on t.v. The staff looked at my record, and I could tell they were concerned about something. Yes--I'm on a low dose of a benzodiazepine. They didn't even bring up pain medication. I didn't even ask, but the pain was bad. Here's a script for 3 10mgs of predisone. I walked out of the emergency room with a prognosis of Anxiety on that stapled care instructions. I was so misserable, I didn't care. They mixed up my record with the guy next to my bed.
3. A compassionate/caring doctor will sometimes write things on paper they wouldn't on a electronic document. In the ninties, my long retired family doctor asked me if I tested positive for the AID's virus, he would put the results in sub-script writing only he would know. He was protecting me from being denied insurance.
4. I thought electronic medical records would be available for patients online. I don't know if patients can access them, nor care anymore. I'm so tired of the system, I just don't care much anymore.
Now they got swallowed up by a regional medical system and have yet another EMR, plus they have 6 clerical staff versus 3 and whatever outsourcer handles IT for the hospital system.
My other doctor friend is a ophamologist. It's a small practice with 3 full time and 1 part time doctor. They pay the fine every year for not having an EMR and use paper and have a standalone system for sending prescriptions. He is enormously happy with paper and feels that's it better in every way, including cost. I agree -- I see zero value in the EMR systems.