Yeah, I think it's pretty interesting to compare Germany with Japan in that case. Japanese cultural memory and historiography intensely remembers the suffering of civilians from famine, firebombing, and nuclear weapons [1] (but rarely from the military itself [2]), but even suggesting that German civilians suffered unnecessarily from strategic bombing in Der Brand (2002) earned Jörg Friedrich, a German historian of Nazi war crimes, widespread censure.

[1] Grave of the Fireflies is a gorgeous, heartbreaking film. Highly recommended!

[2] See the discussion of Okinawa in http://apjjf.org/-Mark-Selden/3173/article.html