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Re:Diamonds Suck (2006) by stephencanon on Sunday November 13, 2016 @02:21PM (#12945077)
> having to explain to friends and acquaintances why she does not have a diamond.

I don't think this is a universal "in America" thing. Maybe in some parts of the country, but here in the northeast it seems like it's none of their business; I can't imagine asking someone to explain it, and I would think someone who did ask was being awfully nosy. FWIW my wife has a diamond ring which she almost never wears, and I can't remember anyone ever asking about it. My parents wear plain gold wedding bands only, and I've never heard anyone ask them about it either.

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Re:Diamonds Suck (2006) by jakewins on Sunday November 13, 2016 @02:36PM (#12945175)
That's absolutely fair, I should know better than to generalize like that. We live in rural Missouri, which is probably why the social pressure is what it is.

Sorry about Trump, BTW.

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Re:Diamonds Suck (2006) by snuxoll on Sunday November 13, 2016 @09:18PM (#12947082)
Fuck, my wife and I are in possession of my parents gold (+small diamond) band and rings and wore them during our courtroom marriage ceremony - but we switched to tungsten rings with a carbon fiber inlay because the gold was too fragile and the wife kept scratching everything (including our daughter) with the diamond.

We're much happier with $20 disposable rings (both of us have lost one already); no fear of loss or damage and it gets the point across fine- hell, when I proposed to her I didn't even have a ring, we would have done it this way in the first place.

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Re:Diamonds Suck (2006) by ScottBurson on Sunday November 13, 2016 @03:07PM (#12945335)
My wife and I, living in the SF Bay area and having no regard for convention whatsoever -- and not really liking diamonds -- went with a sapphire for her ring. She tells me that other women do sometimes ask her about it. This is unfathomable to me, but there it is.
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Re:Diamonds Suck (2006) by shawndumas on Sunday November 13, 2016 @08:16PM (#12946812)
same area; we went with ruby. they ask her about her ring all the time... though she reports never feeling judged.
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Re:Diamonds Suck (2006) by paganel on Monday November 14, 2016 @03:28AM (#12948340)
> WIW my wife has a diamond ring which she almost never wears, and I can't remember anyone ever asking about it

Interesting, I'm from Europe and I'd be curious to know at which point exactly did diamond rings replace gold wedding bands as the "official marriage signs" in the States. Wedding bands are still quite popular over here in Europe, hopefully they don't get replaced any time soon (for one thing, gold actually has some intrinsic value compared to diamonds).

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Re:Diamonds Suck (2006) by stephencanon on Monday November 14, 2016 @09:17AM (#12949900)
> at which point exactly did diamond rings replace gold wedding bands as the "official marriage signs" in the States.

They didn't. Wedding bands are still the "official marriage sign". Diamond engagement rings are extremely common, however, and it's very common for American women to continue wearing their engagement ring alongside their wedding band.

(As with my wife and my mother, it's definitely not unheard of for women to wear just the wedding band either).

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