Why 30 is the decade friends disappear

Re:Why 30 is the decade friends disappear by andreiw on Saturday November 12, 2016 @11:25PM (#12941858)

For everyone the "30" comes at a different age bracket...it's fine to have noticed, but ultimately...does it matter? Socialization is not the end goal of our existence. There is no value to try too hard to make new connections for the sake of making connections, nor to be faning the flames of connections that had naturally been grown out of. People change. Sometimes they change together, but most times they don't. Instead of forcing friendship, just enjoy the memories of what was good at the time when it made sense.

I have a feeling that for some people the thought of being alone with your own thoughts is the most ominous and scariest thing to imagine. that is what really needs to be addressed.

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Re:Why 30 is the decade friends disappear by kareemm on Saturday November 12, 2016 @11:43PM (#12941911)

We are social animals. Close social ties are one of the biggest predictors of happiness.

I'll just leave this here[1]:

> The upshot of 50 years of happiness research is that the quantity and quality of a person's social connections—friendships, relationships with family members, closeness to neighbors, etc.—is so closely related to well-being and personal happiness the two can practically be equated.

1 - http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/raising_happiness/post/happi...

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Re:Why 30 is the decade friends disappear by htns on Sunday November 13, 2016 @12:13AM (#12941973)

>We are social animals

More like murder-anyone-not-from-our-low-double-digits-headcount-community animals ;) The way the phrase is popularly used is an equivocation.

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Re:Why 30 is the decade friends disappear by hackuser on Sunday November 13, 2016 @01:06AM (#12942102)

I'm pretty sure that's wrong. People need social relationships to survive; it's not optional. People literally go insane without social contact.

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Re:Why 30 is the decade friends disappear by htns on Sunday November 13, 2016 @01:21AM (#12942133)

That's ludicrous. There are countless hermits, castaways, and such who retained their sanity just fine. Even cabin fever is not insanity.

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Re:Why 30 is the decade friends disappear by colx on Sunday November 13, 2016 @04:26AM (#12942552)

> Even cabin fever is not insanity.

If anything, the fact that cabin fever is so prevalent should be an indication that maybe humans haven't evolved to live in very close proximity for most of the time.

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Re:Why 30 is the decade friends disappear by 77pt77 on Saturday November 12, 2016 @11:32PM (#12941883)

> Socialization is not the end goal of our existence

Any idea what it is? :)

> I have a feeling that for some people the thought of being alone with your own thoughts is the most ominous and scariest thing to imagine. that is what really needs to be addressed.

I've noticed this also. People are terrified of their own company and will do almost everything in their power to avoid it.

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Re:Why 30 is the decade friends disappear by ionised on Monday November 14, 2016 @09:58AM (#12950153)

If you've figured out what the end goal of human existence is, we'd love to hear it.

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Re:Why 30 is the decade friends disappear by ketralnis on Saturday November 12, 2016 @11:46PM (#12941921)

Or maybe some people value different things than other people

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Re:Why 30 is the decade friends disappear by andreiw on Sunday November 13, 2016 @12:40AM (#12942042)

No doubt. I guess I object to people passing off the monsters under their bed as some sort of universal truth.

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