I think that is a common experience for women. I find it really challenging to get men to engage me in meaningful, meaty discussion. Often, once they have, they suddenly are interested in a romantic liaison.

It's maddening.

Lol, maybe the problem is not working among many males but among many single males craving for a girlfriend!

I wish sorting for marital/relationship status solved this issue. I haven't found that it does.

In IT. many men in IT secretly dream of a partner that has an interest in their field.