Maybe when you're into BDSM. You're right that authority comes from submission, but people submit to power. A gun, a hostage, a 51% voting majority.
Power can be 'taken' and enforced, but very commonly power is simply given/gifted when a community, small or large, self-organizes.
Those are direct use of force, not authority or power.
> 51% voting majority
Can still be undermined by civil disobedience, if we're talking about society. Only a small minority in society (the police) use force to get you to submit. The rest submits to the authority of the law. A very small group can undermine the majority through civil disobedience, since they can outnumber the police very quickly.
I don't think I quite agree with this, but I agree with something similar I suppose : Power comes from submission. (sorta)
I believe that one can be under an authority which one does not choose to submit to. (relating more to how people should act than how they do act, compared to power)
But, perhaps this is just using words differently without necessarily much disagreement about the actual things.
By your comment I am reminded of a dialogue "How to quit smoking" on self-control, which argues that self-control is more due to obedience than it is to "willpower". This dialogue seems to make sense to me. (http://existentialcomics.com/comic/13)
Regarding your last paragraph: I don't know that I know how that last bit is applicable. In order to not have the fork happen, the difference would be people not running the fork code, or alternatively running some slightly different code that handles the fact that some people are running the fork but is otherwise basically unchanged. This code already exists. As such, I'm not sure what you are really saying by this paragraph, other than, basically "suck it up"?
In this case the various arguments were put forward by various people; this included rants, well researched documents, but most importantly code. In the end most people submitted to the code that was put out there by the main group. But still this submission is a choice.
The main group survives by this submission, but it isn't their choice; this is government by consent. You may not consent to it, but plenty others have.
So if you don't like it I suggest you follow Alan Kay's advice; "The best way to predict the future is to invent it." If you want to influence the situation go write better code; of course you need good ideas for that code, but you still need to ship code! Otherwise the cost of submission is too high for most people and they won't follow you.