I wish you strength and courage too. My wife was recently diagnosed with a brain tumor (had no idea until I woke up to her having a seizure in bed next to me) and my previous world, all our plans, have shattered. The horrible thing about brain cancer is that radiation degrades you mentally very quickly. So we are thinking of opting for chemo only for now. Hoping that the quality vs quantity of life trade-off is worth it. Praying for a miracle cure before radiation is necessary.

We were planning to have kids in the next year or so. Now we're doing fertility preservation in case the chemo makes her infertile. I'm wondering if I can cope as a single dad if things come to that. I have a good paying tech job but everything in the Bay Area is so expensive, especially with kids.

There's a world outside the bay area, even in technology, and it's a lot less expensive.

I'm really sorry to hear it. My wife passed last year of her brain tumour, a medulloblastoma. It had come back a few years after it was first discovered and treated. Getting an initial diagnosis like that changes everything very quickly.

I'm wishing you both all the best, and some times of simple joy together to balance the rest of what you're going through.

Not sure if handing out advice is appropriate. But what the heck, nobody mentioned cannabis oil treatment, so here I am mentioning it. It probably won't turn the "when" to an "if", but is worth investigating to see maybe it the treament is something you would like to try. I've researched quite a bit and it seems to have helped (relatively) delay the "when" to quite a lot of people.

I personally find it hard accepting things I'm told to do or that most people have been doing for ages (i.e I don't use shampoo, I sleep on the floor, no commercial toothpaste etc..). I'm not a naturalism fanatic too, it's just things I researched and resonated with me, I tried them, and I liked it.

I wish you tranquility either way.