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Re:Ask HN: How do I stop myself being toxic? by whamlastxmas on Wednesday June 29, 2016 @11:08AM (#12002063)
>how can I convey my frustration to anyone

You don't. If something is impeding you, calmly tell someone who can help that you're having trouble doing something because of XYZ. Don't be negative or pessimistic or blame anyone.

The problem is if you're always frustrated, everyone is going to view you as an angry asshole. I am constantly frustrated but I gave up doing anything about it when it's out of my control. I just move on.

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Re:Ask HN: How do I stop myself being toxic? by kqr on Thursday June 30, 2016 @08:55AM (#12008157)
> You don't. If something is impeding you, calmly tell someone who can help that you're having trouble doing something because of XYZ.

Or, even better, ask what you can do to help with getting XYZ done.

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