You put the mood into words quite elegantly. I just couldn't find a way to explain it so thoroughly...

It's terrible when this happens in person, such a painful way to agree and yet become separate.

I don't think we all lose, though. I think these situations result in someone hurting themself more than they realize. I've been there, but I failed to frame things properly.

In person, it's about being as honest as possible, if quiet when there's a complicated issue. Being honest, you can learn in-situ when issues arise, which is very much what Jaquesm supported.

I've felt terrible seeing great engineers leave meetings upset over minor issues.