Re:Nick Farr's 30c3 Jake Appelbaum story of abuse and harass...
by DanBC on Monday June 06, 2016 @05:10AM
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I just wanted to thank you for telling your story.
It's really easy for me to think, when it's not happening to me, that "Of course I would do this, or that, but I'd never do nothing". And we see some of that thinking in this thread.
What people don't realise is that abusing people is an iterative process. The abuser has had a lot of practice at it, and refines the process over many years.
The victim (and that's a hard word to use about ourselves) hasn't had any experience of this kind of situation, and doesn't want to leap to the to them nuclear option.
I hope you're okay, and if you're ever in Cheltenham[1] I'd buy you a coffee[2].
> Maybe what Jake did to me wasn't all that bad.
It was bad, and most people would have had the same reaction as you.
It's really easy for me to think, when it's not happening to me, that "Of course I would do this, or that, but I'd never do nothing". And we see some of that thinking in this thread.
What people don't realise is that abusing people is an iterative process. The abuser has had a lot of practice at it, and refines the process over many years.
The victim (and that's a hard word to use about ourselves) hasn't had any experience of this kind of situation, and doesn't want to leap to the to them nuclear option.
I hope you're okay, and if you're ever in Cheltenham[1] I'd buy you a coffee[2].
> Maybe what Jake did to me wasn't all that bad.
It was bad, and most people would have had the same reaction as you.
> Maybe I deserved it.
No, you did not deserve it.
[1] The one in England.
[2] Or tea. Or beer.