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Re:Study: To Beat Loneliness, Visits Must Be Real, Not Virtual by pmarreck on Sunday June 05, 2016 @03:31PM (#11842658)
While I've had a decent time with a good friend, it's somewhat liberating to go alone.

Re: "why everyone is questioning why you are there by yourself": This may depend on the area. I lived in Boston for a while and people seemed openly hostile about solo guys. I remember I went to the Enormous Room (RIP: http://www.yelp.com/biz/the-enormous-room-cambridge) one night by myself and got questioned multiple times why I was alone there... The funny thing is that 2 friends I know randomly showed up there on the same night, so I didn't actually end up alone after all... I just go alone sometimes because it is freeing.

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Re:Study: To Beat Loneliness, Visits Must Be Real, Not Virtual by 98Windows on Sunday June 05, 2016 @04:27PM (#11842948)
I think it depends on how well your social needs are being met in the rest of your life, if you are lonely going to a event like that alone can make you feel worse.
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Re:Study: To Beat Loneliness, Visits Must Be Real, Not Virtual by rimantas on Sunday June 05, 2016 @04:19PM (#11842909)
Must be USA thing.
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Re:Study: To Beat Loneliness, Visits Must Be Real, Not Virtual by Broken_Hippo on Sunday June 05, 2016 @04:32PM (#11842971)
Yes! Well, I don't know if it is particular only to the USA, but.. that is one of the freedoms I gained when I moved to Norway. Perfectly acceptable to go see music in a bar by myself, or to any social function, etc. - and I don't feel out of place doing it. Nor do I get hassled about being a female walking to/from home during the night after going to the same places.

Doing the same things in the states, you feel the aloneness more and it is much more rare for folks to do.

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Re:Study: To Beat Loneliness, Visits Must Be Real, Not Virtual by colmvp on Sunday June 05, 2016 @09:10PM (#11844047)
Eh I don't know. When I was in Paris, going to concerts alone was fine but the days when my friends were there to chat and interact with me we're far more happy and full.
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Re:Study: To Beat Loneliness, Visits Must Be Real, Not Virtual by vonklaus on Sunday June 05, 2016 @04:27PM (#11842947)
can you clarify? Do you mean enjoyment of going alone, or others questioning you for your lack of compatriots?
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