Re:Crying
by MicroBerto on Friday May 27, 2016 @04:50PM
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You're missing my point, but simultaneously agreeing with me. Stoicism during an argument is the self-induced test to determine results. It's easily created and pretty repeatable in a scenario that doesn't matter so much. That was just a simple example that you can control.
And then, yes -- when it does matter, you know what already gets you best results.
The exhausting part is being the rock when there's a crisis. When your spouse is freaking out about running out of money for rent. When rent is being raised and you have to figure out how to raise it less. When kids get injured and need the hospital.
Or when your team is freaking out because everything's going to shit and production is down and you're running out of time on features you promised to Big Users/Clients TM.
When everyone around you is panicking and freaking the fuck out, but somebody has to fix the situation. That's when being the rock matters.
Who even gives a shit about arguments? Arguing is for fun.