My mom was supposed to live 6 months longer (at best). Instead she made it more than 2 years. Where they difficult years? Yep. However, they where still valuable ones. She got to see me marry. She met the future mother of her grandchildren. She got to see and do things she always wanted to do. She saw her estranged family again.
The value of those oncologists simply can't be discounted. It's an incredibly difficult profession, one in which most of your patients die. However, the ability to extend lives...even by a few months... and manage to make those last days as painless and productive as possible makes them angels in my book. Not profiteers.
It was interesting getting to know her oncologist. He clearly struggled with the emotions of his job. In the wake of her death he couldn't bring himself to attend her funeral (understandable). There was hardly a human being who knew her better in those last two years... and for that I'll be eternally grateful to him.
Your wishes aside, most doctors are profiteers. Take the profit out and most would find another professions. Don't you remember the attitude of hopeul medical-school bound students in college? Very few go to medical school for noble causes.
Your mom's oncologist likely attended very few, if any, of his patients' funerals.
As for: "It was interesting getting to know her oncologist. He clearly struggled with the emotions of his job. In the wake of her death he couldn't bring himself to attend her funeral (understandable).There was hardly a human being who knew her better in those last two years... and for that I'll be eternally grateful to him."
I must call you on your claims. Oncologists necessarily don't spend much time with each patient and it is very unlikely that
- you "got to know her oncologist",
- he "struggled with the emotions",
- he "knew her better" than anyone else .
The only way the last could be true is that your mother had no friends. Was she wealthy also? Oncologists do make exceptions for wealthy patrons.
But before this, the patient is negotiating for something, anything, that will relieve his suffering. And money ceases to become an object.
Skip the oncologist, pass the drugs.
But it's a good business model: people will often spend their net worth to extend the life of themselves or their child a few months. But in the end they almost always die the same miserable death. So I expect even more "childrens' cancer centers" to open and rake in millions.