Your anger is misguided. I have weathered the deaths by cancer of several whom I care about very much. I found it grueling, relentless and painful for everyone. In every case much money changed hands in a very short period of time, always to the benefit of the oncologist and associated institution.

Your wishes aside, most doctors are profiteers. Take the profit out and most would find another professions. Don't you remember the attitude of hopeul medical-school bound students in college? Very few go to medical school for noble causes.

Your mom's oncologist likely attended very few, if any, of his patients' funerals.

As for: "It was interesting getting to know her oncologist. He clearly struggled with the emotions of his job. In the wake of her death he couldn't bring himself to attend her funeral (understandable).There was hardly a human being who knew her better in those last two years... and for that I'll be eternally grateful to him."

I must call you on your claims. Oncologists necessarily don't spend much time with each patient and it is very unlikely that

- you "got to know her oncologist",

- he "struggled with the emotions",

- he "knew her better" than anyone else .

The only way the last could be true is that your mother had no friends. Was she wealthy also? Oncologists do make exceptions for wealthy patrons.