So, your theory is the story.. she can't wait for options to fully vest and gracefully exit. It's not for lack of thrill, growth, etc. – just that after 3-4 years it is heavily taxing and a pace of sanity is much desired.
But both Tesla and SpaceX seems very successful so I wonder if they are successful despite of this or because of this.
You should be suspicious of people telling you that the world has no trade-offs, that everything's win-win.
While there is of course a point beyond which trying to work people harder is strictly counterproductive, that point is, for most people, well north of 40 hours a week. It's probably well north of 80 hours a week. Your 81st hour in the week is almost certainly nowhere near as productive as your 35th hour is, but it's probably not negatively productive.
And if you specifically hire for people who can be productive in long weeks, you can definitely find people who can add productivity to the 80th hour and beyond.
Those people may quickly become unhappy. They may eventually (or rapidly) burn out. And you may be a real dick if you ask this of people. But it's one way to get a lot of value, fast.
I don't think that companies ought to routinely ask for very long hours. But that's because I think that it's inhumane, not because the universe has created natural law that says that long working hours remove productivity.
Which is depressing, but it makes sense.
These people do exist. (Though maybe not long past early 20s).
As soon as it starts causing conflict with other areas of your life, it's a fast track to burnout or nervous breakdown.
Remember we're not talking about the exceptional 16h day once in a blue moon but the normal modus operandi over months or years.
Also, 8 hours per night is how much most people like to sleep (and i suspect for good biological reason, long term).
If this is really how the game is played. I quit.
It seems this strategy can be applied in different scenarios/fields and with money, people, money and people... Opens your eyes.
It's not a game.
For comparison, see Apple's plant in Fremont, 1984-1992. This was Steve Jobs' vision of manufacturing.[1] It looks great. It's got automatic stacker cranes. It's got pick and place machines. It's got mobile robots. Everything is very tidy. But it's inefficient. Designing a factory around a storage and retrieval warehouse machine turns out to be a bad idea. Too much of the plant is material handling rather than manufacturing. Apple closed that plant and outsourced manufacturing to Foxconn.
This is the sort of problem you hit in setting up a manufacturing plant. It's easy to end up with too much work in progress spread around the plant. This is worse in automotive, where work in progress is physically large and needs storage space.
You're heavily recruitable for large swaths of stock at any number of startups, presumably with a status bump on top, or you could just take your well earned millions and chill for a bit.
Whoever is running the Model 3 delivery program is going to be living at the office for the next 36 months, by contrast.