I think the Fermi paradox has a hidden assumption, that we are intelligent enough to detect aliens. We couldn't detect that the earth revolves around the sun till quite recent in our (genetic beings on earth) evolution. I say give it a few years, we'll figure out that aliens are too alien right now to us. Computationally speaking, our brains are quite limited, though we have recently gained the ability to share ideas across the internet. Nice hearing from you cousin!