your contact list doesn't matter? it was leaked via buzz.
What exactly is the danger of people having my email address(substitute me with you if it helps)?
Re:Ask HN: Gmail alternatives?
by chengas123 on Sunday February 14, 2010 @01:07PM
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my contact list was not leaked. i think at most the list of people you were auto-following was made public if/when you created a public profile and did not set this information to private
However, if, like the OP, you do not trust a major corporation with a near-immaculate record on data integrity and an industry-leading stance on LEA disclosure, why trust any corporation?
Hosting your own server is inherently risky, but it is a different sort of risk with different mitigations. As you allude to in your post, the question is whether you fear malicious individuals, the workings of the state or corporate incompetence.