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Re:I’ve Had a Cyberstalker Since I Was 12 by feintruled on Wednesday March 02, 2016 @06:30AM (#11209311)
Of course, in moderation making excuses for others (or rather, putting a positive spin on their actions) can lead for an easier and more stress free life. I have been amazed at times when behaviour from others I have considered unremarkable has been interpreted in any entirely different way by someone else.

For example, a boss I considered to be trying his best is considered by others as an upper management ass-kisser who would back stab any of his team members in a heart beat to get ahead. This is working off the same information as I had. The person holding this view seemed to spend their days in a state of seething resentment, compared to my (blissful) ignorance. They would of course consider me stupidly naive!

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Re:I’ve Had a Cyberstalker Since I Was 12 by mpweiher on Wednesday March 02, 2016 @12:18PM (#11211322)
> .. easier and more stress free life

This. So much this. Where a lot of posters here see "downtrodden victim of societal pressures", I see people who like to take the easier route. Speaking up for yourself is hard. For everyone. It's pretty much always easier to let it slide, not rock the boat, appease, downplay etc.

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Re:I’ve Had a Cyberstalker Since I Was 12 by angmarsbane on Friday March 04, 2016 @04:59PM (#11227157)
Making excuses can be a way to try and protect yourself. If you're afraid someone will escalate if you say no then you will try to tolerate or say yes as much as you can and hope that is a slower route to the escalation.
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